I'm so angry and frustrated tonight I'm going crazy. The question is do I address the problem like Kate from Kate Plus 8 or like Mrs. Duggar from 19 Kids and Counting. In all fairness to the other party involved, I can't include all of the details on here. I felt the only thing to make me feel better would be to write and this is where I write. Here is the problem.
I don't do drama very well. When I was younger I was full of it. With maturity and the work I do, I no longer tolerate it because I don't have patience for it. I work with 330 students who have families with high needs. 70% of the families live in poverty. The stories I hear on a daily basis would scare and alarm most people. Part of my role is to work with a team to provide resources and problem solve, but most importantly make sure the student is safe and has their needs met so they can learn. Rarely do I have a day where I can be as proactive as I would like. For the most part, I am responding. My family and colleagues would tell you I'm passionate about my students. When people try to bring their drama to me, I walk away. No time and no energy.
A few weeks ago a situation arose that was full of drama. I explained to my friend how I felt. This person apologized to me and assured me I would never be part of it again. I made it very clear I wanted nothing to do with the third party who was the cause of the drama. Yet tonight this friend walked up to me with the third party like there had never been a problem. I can't tell you the thoughts that flashed through my brain. I seriously bit my tongue. The fact that there wasn't blood streaming down my face is a miracle. I know if I were Kate Gosslein I would have let everything rip! I feel like I've already tried the Mrs. Duggar approach. I've been forgiving and tolerated more than a lot of people would. I don't know how to make my point anymore clear. The difference in this situation and others is that this friend is important to me for many reasons. Yet, now I feel like the respect I have felt is not mutual. Perhaps it is time for me to move on.
Why am I sharing this on a weight loss blog? It's affecting my working out. It's interfering with the journey. This journey that I have become so passionate about. Now I'm getting so emotional I feel like throwing up and I'm crying. I have to figure out how to work through this. I cannot let someone else's decisions impact my work and my health. I am going to have to make a change. It's going to be difficult and I'm going to have to find a balance between Kate and Mrs. Duggar. I think I'm scared and emotional because I don't want to sever a friendship and I don't want to have to start over.
In figuring out exactly how to deal with this, I have to continue on with my working out. It might be different, but I've overcome a lot in this journey. This is just a small mountain on the route to the finish.
Seriously??? Why can't people just treat each other with respect??? Is it too much to ask??? UGH!!!
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